wlotus: (Eyes Wide Open)
I mean, I do have an issue with individuals not feeling comfortable with being their unique selves. What I'm fighting against, with the music I create, is the great divide: You know, people who always try to divide you and categorize you and say, "Oh these people are not good enough to be with these people." Because being a black African-American woman and knowing my history, with how slavery happened and evolved and over time it morphed into something else, you know, whether it's discrimination against people that are gay or lesbian or straight or, you know, androids or cyborgs. So I think that it's just really about us doing away with all the labels and categories and just accepting each other for who we are as individuals.

~Janelle Monáe, in a 10 June 2010 interview with the Colorado Springs Independent


Feb. 18th, 2010 09:47 pm
wlotus: (Photography II)
"I learned to love myself, because I sleep with myself every night and I wake up with myself every morning, and if I don't like myself, there's no reason to even live the life. I love the way I look. I'm fine with it. And if my body changes, I'll be fine with that."
~ Gabourey Sidibe, the star of Precious

Joie de Vivre, by Wanda McCrae
Joie de Vivre
17 February 2010
wlotus: (Blackberry)
Expecting "end results" - such as wealth and abundance, health and harmony, friends and laughter - in broad brush strokes, is part of the secret formula, W, for manifesting the life of your dreams.

Expecting your path to follow a certain route - such as writing a bestseller to accumulate wealth, having a particular someone fall in love with you, or insisting upon this idea, that diet, or the other invention to be your deliverance - is just plain messing with the cursed hows and severely limits my options... (I hate when that happens.)

The Universe

P.S. Release any expectations you may have of how you think your dreams will come true, W, but by all means, with every fiber of your being, expect that they will, as you busy yourself enjoying who and where you already are.
wlotus: (Blackberry)
Telling a child or adult not to be hurt by teasing is as bewildering as telling her not to flinch or cry when someone slaps her in the face because the assaulter was "just having fun...."

If you are sensitive to teasing, you have no apologies to make. Permitting yourself to be the brunt of jokes or the target of hostile humor is neither admirable nor a sign of emotional health. When you laugh along with those who tease you, you not only devalue your own self-esteem you also reward the teasers for their hurtfulness or cruelty as well.

~Dr. Harriet B. Baker, "The Disease to Please"
wlotus: (Blackberry)
"When the song of the angels is stilled, when the star in the sky is gone, when the kings and princes are home, when the shepherds are back with their flock, the work of Christmas begins: to find the lost, to heal the broken, to feed the hungry, to release the prisoner, to rebuild the nations, to bring peace ... to make music in the heart." - Howard Thurman
wlotus: (Tending the Flame)
Sometimes, W, when there's absolutely no other evidence, you can still know whether someone's telling the truth or not, from all else they've said.

That's what I say,
    The Universe
wlotus: (Tending the Flame)
It's true, W, the early bird gets the worm.

So does the late bird and the bird in-between. Because by design, there are always more than enough worms.

In fact, the only bird that doesn't get a worm, is the bird that doesn't go out to get one.

Oh, to be alive....
    The Universe
wlotus: (Tending the Flame)
When I dare to be powerful, to use my strength in the service of my vision, then it becomes less and less important whether I am afraid.

~ Audre Lorde


Oct. 11th, 2008 09:47 am
wlotus: (Angry Typist)

Choice is an illusion created between those with power and those without.
~ The Merovingian, Matrix Reloaded

Feel free to discuss.

I deleted the off-topic comments, even though they were amusing. This subject is burning my brain heavily enough that I need to keep the commentary on-track.

wlotus: (Fountain Pen)
Let me say that not one part of me thinks you need to have children to be complete, to know parts of yourself that cannot be known any other way. People with children like to think this, although if you are not a parent, they hide it--their belief that having a child legitimizes them somehow, validates their psychic parking tickets. They tell pregnant women and couples and one another that those who have chosen not to breed can never know what real love is, what selflessness really means. They like to say that having a child taught them about authenticity.

This is a total crock. Many of the most shut-down, narcissistic, selfish people on earth have children. Many of the most evolved--the richest in spirit, the most giving--choose not to. The exact same chances for awakening, for personal restoration and connection, exist for breeders and nonbreeders alike.

~ Anne Lamott, Chirren, from Grace (Eventually): Thoughts on Faith
wlotus: (Choice)

As a Christian and a feminist, the most important message I can carry and fight for is the sacredness of each human life, and reproductive rights for all women are a crucial part of that. It is a moral necessity that we not be forced to bring children into the world for whom we cannot be responsible and adoring and present. We must not inflict life on children who will be resented; we must not inflict unwanted children on society.

~Anne Lamott, "The Born", from Grace (Eventually): Thoughts on Faith

wlotus: (Atlas Shrugged)
Black women who survive have a head start in learning how to be open and self-protective at the same time. One secret is to ask as many people as possible for help, depending on all of them and on none of them at the same time. Some will help, others cannot. For the time being.

Another secret is to find some particular thing your soul craves for nourishment--a different religion, a quiet spot, a dance class--and satisfy it. That satisfaction does not have to be costly or difficult. Only a need that is recognized, articulated, and answered.

There is an important difference between openness and naiveté. Not everyone has good intentions nor means me well. I remind myself I do not need to change these people, only recognize who they are.

~ Audre Lorde
wlotus: (Eyes Wide Open)
The white western patriarchal ordering of things requires that we believe there is an inherent conflict between what we feel and what we think--between poetry and theory. We are easier to control when one part of our selves is split from another, fragmented, off balance. There are other configurations, however, other ways of experiencing the world, though they are often difficult to name.

~ Nancy K. Bereano, in her introduction to Audre Lorde's Sister Outsider

And [speaking] is never without fear; of visibility, of the harsh light of scrutiny and perhaps judgment, of pain, of death. But we have lived through all of those already, in silence, except death. And I remind myself all the time now, that if I were to have been born mute, and had maintained an oath of silence my whole life for safety, I would still have suffered, and I would still die. It is very good for establishing perspective.

~ Audre Lorde, "The Transformation of Silence into Language and Action"

Thank you, [livejournal.com profile] mage_girl and [livejournal.com profile] rockbirthedme. I am ready to begin talking, again.


Jun. 2nd, 2008 11:50 pm
wlotus: (Fountain Pen)

I beg you never to talk about what you will leave me in your will. You see, I feel that what parents leave their children afterward is a barbaric and commercial invention. It is what the parents give now, share now with the children which is beautiful, what they can share together in life....Enjoy it all, enjoy your house as much as possible, to the limit, and leave me a legacy of having known you happy. Let the house live and die with you. It is you and your present life and pleasure which interests me at the moment.
~ Anaïs Nin, in a 1937 letter to her father

wlotus: (Standing Out)

We found that many who came to the commission attested afterward to the fact that they had found relief, and experienced healing, just through the process of telling their story. The acceptance, the affirmation, the acknowledgment that they had indeed suffered was cathartic for them.
~ Desmond Tutu, in No Future Without Forgiveness

wlotus: (Photography)

Living without forethought may sound spontaneous, but in the end it's a form of cowardice. It's denying your own power, your own ability, the importance of others, the very things in the end that makes life rich and strong and achingly beautiful.

~ [livejournal.com profile] tamnonlinear, 21 December 2007

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