In Search of Peace

[wlotus]

Perhaps I'll find peace faster, if I just accept the non-peaceful thoughts I have about various people and things, rather than trying to find ways to fight/change my feelings. The feelings will pass in their own time.

Comments

[jadegirl.livejournal.com]

That's pretty much the essence of zen, right there. Feelings simply are, kind of like the weather. Fighting/rejecting them doesn't help, is actually an act of self-violence.

*loves*

[ladyofthelog.livejournal.com]

*hugs* That's what I try my best to do. It does seem to be helping.

[bookchick.livejournal.com]

::hugs:: I think too often we all expect to be able to fight/change/act on what we feel - to be able to just accept them and let them be, then let them fade on their own? Not so easy.

[lilrongal.livejournal.com]

Feelings are not good or bad. They just are. That's what my counselor always told me.

[rockbirthedme.livejournal.com]

Seconded.

You know how we've discussed the need for a person to be able to tell their story and have their pain acknowledged? We need to do that ourselves, for ourselves, too. If you just fight against your feelings, in a way you're fighting acknowledging that anything happened. You need to know within yourself that your suffering is legitimate.

[wlotus.livejournal.com]

You're right. Over the past few days I've thought a lot about my right to feel and acknowledge my uncensored feelings. Scratch that: I haven't just thought, I have actively embraced my feelings, rather than fighting them. I still carefully choose a response, but as for the feelings themselves, I am more open to them.

[far-gone.livejournal.com]

thinking of you...