You are right: that was a long time ago. I hope by now more people have a much broader view than Lorde did.
My private life is man-free, though not by choice. There was a time when I would have chosen that for myself, but I eventually had the pleasure of meeting men I am glad to consider buddies. However, none of them made themselves available to have the kind of deeper, more emotionally connected friendships I have with my close friends, all of whom are female. When I would reach out to them in that way, they would erect emotional walls and back away (in embarrassment?), so I stopped trying. I used to mourn that lack of male energy in my private life, and sometimes I still do, but now the grief is minimal. My female friends more than make up for it with their compassion and empathy and willingness to accept the same from me.
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My private life is man-free, though not by choice. There was a time when I would have chosen that for myself, but I eventually had the pleasure of meeting men I am glad to consider buddies. However, none of them made themselves available to have the kind of deeper, more emotionally connected friendships I have with my close friends, all of whom are female. When I would reach out to them in that way, they would erect emotional walls and back away (in embarrassment?), so I stopped trying. I used to mourn that lack of male energy in my private life, and sometimes I still do, but now the grief is minimal. My female friends more than make up for it with their compassion and empathy and willingness to accept the same from me.