Inside My Velvet Rope

I was actually relaxed. No denial here: my arms are big. That said, since high school I usually think I am much fatter than I am, and I usually think that is a bad thing. So there are two problems here, and the second (thinking my being fat is a bad thing) is more disturbing to me than the first. Of course, it doesn't help when one has family members who think it is okay to say when they think you have gotten "too big" or to gleefully declare when they see you, "You are looking BIG!!!!!" (Not, "You are looking beautiful, happy, healthy," and they will insist BIG--yes, all in caps--is the proper word to use when I say as much.) Unlearning that negative feedback will probably take a lifetime.